I have read with a measure of displeasure the increasing number of domestic violence incidents and decided to put my pen to work.

A young man called Peter in his blog said that a major reason why women do not cry out against domestic violence is the fear of being single and alone.

I quite agree with him. And society has not helped matters with the way single women ESPECIALLY are treated. In my article titled WAITING AND BLEEDING, I discussed how people treat singles: with disdain. This has made many women cling to TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS because they do not want to be despised.

I can say this first hand because I am a mature single lady………You don’t want to hear my story.

My focus in this piece is the bridge between TIWA and SAVAGE. The word ‘Tiwa’ in the Nigerian Yoruba language means ‘our own’ while ‘Savage’ is an English word which describes ‘a person who is wild and violent.’

In marriage, the couple no longer use ‘my own,’ they often say ‘our own,’ or Tiwa. Because they both have ‘joint ownership.’ So when a lady becomes SO DESPERATE to get married and have access to TIWA, she ends up a SAVAGE.

Members of the feminine gender to which I belong, please do not let TIWA turn you to a SAVAGE. I know it’s not easy to wait endlessly for a desired destiny ( I am waiting and it’s not FUNNY) but it is better to be ALONE than to be in BAD COMPANY.

If you get married to the wrong person……hmmmm, you may turn into a monster, a SAVAGE, a walking disaster. Have you ever met a woman going through a bad marriage……………..? Not a pleasant sight!

Ladies, I plead again. Shine your eyes. Seek God’s guidance. Ask questions but please, do not let desperation for ‘TIWA’ turn you to a ‘SAVAGE.’

Watch out for the second part of this message.